What I Signed Up For

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Denny GunHave you ever been robbed?  I have.  More than once.  Have you ever woke up and found a stranger in your home?  I have.  The first time I got robbed.

His name is Raymond.  Raymond got stoned on a hard drug and decided he was going to rob my home, with my beautiful wife and myself still sleeping in our bed.

Thankfully we escaped our home and had Raymond arrested for robbery.  He served only 8 months in the county jail.

After Raymond was released, he would walk by our house flipping us off like we were the bad guys.  My wife once told me he made a cat-call on his way by while she was outside.  That kind of shit is scary.

If I would’ve owned a handgun when he robbed us, there might be no more Raymond to have tormented us.  I can’t say that for certain, as I would have had to make a few decisions in a flash.  It seems my friends like to remind me of this fact every few months; just because a perpetrator is in your home, you may not have the right to kill them.  Trust me I know.  However, being he was at the foot of our bed when we noticed him, that made us indeed fear for our lives.  If that wasn’t exhilarating enough, try the fact that we jumped over him, ran across the street naked.  I’m thankful that my wife at the time was very attractive.  Otherwise our neighbors may not have let us in to call the police.  But if I had a gun, I could’ve at the very least, held him at gun point while my wife calls the police.

On the succeeding times, my family was robbed when we weren’t home.   When we called the police, it took them forever to arrive.  They did little to nothing to investigate the incidents.  Our goods were never recovered.  While having a gun doesn’t stop that kind of robbery, it does prove waiting for the police isn’t good idea in a situation where you are home.  By all means call them first if you can, but take action if you must while you wait for them.  Otherwise just take action and then call when you are out of danger.

Just a few years ago, I had a delivery that I wouldn’t have been able to get back from because of the snow storm and the hill the person lived down.  I tried to call, but he didn’t answer his phone.  After failed calls from myself and the store to try to contact the customer; I went back to the store.  As I was heading back, he called me and called me all sorts of unpleasant names and called me a liar about the weather.  I hung up on him.  He then called my manager and threatened to come to the store and kill him, then called me back with the same threat.  Over a pizza…

From that moment on, I decided I was no longer going to be a victim.  I now a very pro-active Second Amendment supporter.  I’ve put up with way more than any citizen should ever have to deal with in their lifetime.

I bought a pistol at Jay’s.  I got good at using it accurately and quickly.  I studied my ass off to know when I can and cannot use it.  I took a course and paid close attention to everything put to me from the instructor and the DNR Officer that gave us really in-depth information.  And for the past almost 3 years, I have carried a gun on me every single day.

But here’s what most people who don’t carry a gun fail to think about.  They don’t know the whole story behind people like me.  We made a very profound decision.  It’s not about carrying a gun.  It’s about protection of not only ourselves, but our loved ones and everyone around us.

When you go out and about to the local businesses, you generally have someone with a gun near you.  Possibly several.


  • Blue = Customers
  • Green = People with Concealed Carry License
  • Red = People with Bad Intentions (Possibly have guns too)

In the above scenario, you have a bunch of customers.  Some of which are people with licenses to carry a firearm concealed.  A couple of possible criminals who may also be carrying a gun.  This is a typical day when you go out.  That’s a fact.  With over 18.66 million people lawfully registered to carry a concealed gun, this is every day life now.  But let’s face it, if someone commits a crime, you likely have someone willing to defend you.  Except gun-free zones.  In those, you are more likely to be helpless.

But here is the other side of the 2nd Amendment Coin.  When you decide to carry a gun, you have to think long and hard as to if you want to put your life on the line.  Possibly face jail if you make the wrong choices under pressure.  I have and I am willing to take the risk to protect myself, my family and any innocent life I can.

If something happens, it’s not simple to just handle the situation.  I could very well go to jail for life.  I could pay up to and over $100,000 in fines and court costs.  I could get killed.  The list goes on.  It’s not something I recommend everyone do.  For months I wanted to make a video showcasing what could happen if the situations aren’t perfect.  I hope some day one of the YouTube people who support Second Amendment Rights will make a short movie about these things.

Put in simpler terms, I am willing to lay down everything to protect someone else.  Even if I don’t know them.  And I won’t regret one thing if I save someone.  Even if I die doing so.  I hope it never happens.   I hope I never get put in that situation.  But if I do.  I will train as often as I can.  I will continue to educate myself.  Because I want to get it right when the need arises.

WE NEED TO FIGHT TO PROTECT OUR SECOND AMENDMENT RIGHTS!  Unless you want to be stripped of people around you to protect you.  Or protect yourself by registering to get a conceal carry permit.  Don’t let the Libtards and Democrats take our rights that made this country great away from you and me.  Don’t let them take our guns away.  Don’t let them force us to pay for prisoners to have sex changes.  And all the things they want to take away from us.

Another Christmas

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Another ChristmasI really just don’t know what it is about Christmas.  It’s my life’s curse.  I can’t recall a Christmas that didn’t go wrong for me in some way.

This year is a doozy.  The upside is I don’t have a breakup or divorce happening this year 👍

I do have money issues and unhappy people again.

You see I made a deal with my boss when I started my current job that I would get at least 37 hours a week.  For that, I would give up my job of 14 years at Widomaker.  In the past 6-8 months I was only averaging 35 hours a week.  Still it was enough to get by on by myself.

I really regret not getting that deal in writing.  About 3 weeks ago, he cut my hours to 25 per week.  That hurts substantially.  Because with this job, I barely make over minimum wage, so I use mileage and tips to cover gas, food, and some small bills including my monthly storage fee.  Any left over would go to savings.  I haven’t had any spare money to add to savings in some time.

To break it down:

10 Hours Per Week = 40 Hours Per Month
(one weeks vacation without pay)

$9.50 per hour x 10 hours = $95
$95 x 4 days = $380

Mileage on bad day = $25
$25 x 4 days = $100

Tips on bad day = $30
$30 x 4 days = $120

$380 + $120 + $100 = $600

So at the very least I’m losing $600 per month.  That’s my entire rent.  Not every day is a bad day, so I’m actually losing more than that.  But this proves I can’t afford to live in my current place of residence.  So naturally I’m in a panic.  Of course here is Christmas.  Time to spend money on gifts.  Money I now don’t have.

Finding a job for someone who can’t stand for long periods or lift heavy objects is really hard.  Almost every job description has it listed.  Delivery was a good break for me.  I’ve been looking for a tech job for over a year now with no luck.  I did get a, “we’ll keep your resume on file” from the local shop in town.  Though I don’t know if they will or if they are just being nice.  I’ve run out of delivery jobs in this town.  I’m still trying like hell to move to East Jordan.  Which I know I’ll have to get work out of town if I live there.  As there isn’t a lot of jobs in that town.  In the interim, I’m going to see if I can get underemployment like I did when Widomaker cut my hours some years back.  Plus hit the staffing services and see if they have handicap friendly jobs that I might qualify for.

In any case, I managed to scrounge up a small amount of money to buy gifts for the immediate family.  Hopefully they like what I found, granted some of the gifts are cheesy.  Kind of my thing as I like being silly.  Last year was 10lb bags of Gummy Bears 😜  I did manage to get someone something they really wanted.

Though despite my best efforts, some are still unhappy.  Even though I might end up with no place to live next month.  I could even get complaints that I used the same wrapping paper on all the gifts.  Like it matters.  It’s just going to be tossed and possibly burned.

Fuck My Life


I’m Trying

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Human BodyI’m trying to stay off of government assistance.  I’m trying to keep working a full time job.  I’m trying to find a tech job with steady hours so I can really start exercising daily again.  With winter here, it only reminds me that I’m not the spunky skinny young man I once was.  And only half the man I was prior to February 2012.

Prior to that date, I only had high blood pressure and some asthma.  Neither seemed to slow me down much.  Even though I was overweight then, I was walking 3 miles a day and had been smoke free for a few years.

Since then, things have kind of declined.  As a customer once told me, “Getting old isn’t for the weak.”.  I can attest he wasn’t fucking kidding 😕

High Blood Pressure

OK I’ve had this for many years.  I think I started taking meds when I was like 32ish?  I wasn’t super heavy then, but I would have accepted the term, “fluffy”.  I know people try to say that I’m fluffy now, but it feels like a happy lie more than acceptance of the truth.


This hit me harder in Virginia than it does here.  Though it never really was a problem for the most part.  Even today.  Unless the humidity is like 80% or higher.  I’m sure if I was still skinny as I once was, it wouldn’t even be an issue.

Coronary Artery Disease

This one crept up on me.  I was finally taking a stand on my weight and walking every day.  I changed much of my eating habits, though I’m still a food lover sadly.  I’m thrilled to still be alive.  However, I can’t figure out how I dismissed my first heart attack as dehydration and just went home and took a nap.  The second one was the one where I crawled to the car and somehow drove to the hospital and crawled into the ER.  I know God had me because I only remember moments of the trip.  I praise the Mary Immaculate Hospital every day for their excellent care and Dr. John Paul Jones for saving my life 💓

Cartilage Loss / Osteoarthritis

This one happened just a few years ago.  Shortly before I worked where I do now.  I got called into work on my day off.  In my rush to get things caught up, I rushed to the truck and when I turned my foot stayed and my knee twisted.  Two loud cracks and I was on the ground.  I got 3 months off for a torn meniscus injury that seemed to never heal.  A year goes by with no improvement and I fire my doctor.  I got a new doctor and we started from scratch.  Turns out I destroyed a good hunk of cartilage in my knee and it developed Osteoarthritis.  So it will never really heal.  I can get a replacement knee if I lose more weight.  When it gets cold or humid, I wear a brace to ease the pressure and use a cane to walk around.

Plantar Fasciitis

Because of all that limping I do, it has caused this fun problem.  My right knee is jacked up, so my left leg takes all the heavy lifting and pressure.  Causing the tissue on the bottom of my foot to tear.  It’s like walking on shards of glass at times.  When it gets too bad, I take a week off work and eat some savings to get it healed up.

Bone Spurs

This started last winter.  My forearms started bruising and feeling very achy.  Especially if I carried things on my arms and holding more in my hands.  Like a waiter would do.  When I had it checked out, it was spurs on my forearm bones.  Most people get them on their feet or hands.  I got them on my arms.  Not a big deal.  Yet.


Now you talk about a pain that can bring you to your knees.  Literally.  Your lower back on fire and you can barely walk.  I’m currently heavily medicated for it.  I’m scarred what will happen when the 30 days of pain reliever stops.  I have some Lidocaine patches.  But I sit a lot.

So when you add all that up, there are days I’m a mess.  I don’t want to be someone who bleeds the tax payers dry while I watch life go by.  The only upside to that situation, is I could exercise daily.  But I want to hold out as long as I can before I succumb to that life.


What I Don’t Miss… About Dating

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Denny AR-15A few folks have asked why I prefer to be single now.  It’s simple really.  I’ve spent my whole life trying to please someone else.  Wasted years thinking that making someone happy would make me happy.  It never once worked.  I always had to change for them, but they didn’t have to change for me.  At least I never asked them to.

I suppose that’s partially my fault for always trying to please them and rarely myself.

But in my endeavors of dating to win the heart of someone, there were things that would just drive me round the bend.  Especially in the past 8 years.

Talking about the ex

I’m guilty of this one, but I’ve had a lot of ex’s.  So it’s a huge part of my past.  Until now I was rarely single.  Turns out I attract psychos and/or infidelity hounds real easy.  Just seems my crazy rarely matched their crazy for long.  I do try to not linger on it long in conversation.  However, I’ve had to deal with so much of “my ex” from whoever I’m involved with it’s insane.  Of course now I’m the topic of conversation from these people.

Put the damned phone down!

Can’t be without her phone and cannot keep herself from checking it or stopping mid conversation to answer or giggle at whatever was just sent/shared to/with her.

Speaking of women’s obsessions with their phone; why can’t they ever silence it?  Hated going anywhere public just to hear the constant noises coming from her pocket.  And why for the love of all that is holy, doesn’t anyone like using their phone as a damn phone?!?!  Nope, only text…  And we all know how much I love texting 😒

Constantly pulling her shorts and pants out of her crotch

This is distracting as all fuck.  Why do you ladies insist on wearing things that don’t fit right?  Go baggy if you have to!  If you spend all day and night pulling your outfit out of your crotch repeatedly, then the fucking thing doesn’t fit!  And don’t get all pissy with the men when they look at what you are doing.  The whole room can see you yanking at your crotch 😡

I don’t have to suffer TV shows and movies I can’t stand

Over the years I’ve been tortured by every damned reality show there is.  And if I choose to leave the room and do something else I get chastised for not spending time.  Reality shows are complete bullshit.  Talent shows are painful.  People who watch Glee should be shot.  No one randomly breaks into song during school in perfect pitch and harmony.  Speaking of shit sing-along shows; why does every woman seem to love Rocky Horror Picture Show?

I always prayed for someone who gets me.  Who shares my love of upbeat rock music, likes my shows or likes games.  Never fails, I always pick the polar opposite.

Black HeartDoesn’t matter anymore, I choose to no longer torture myself with these god awful dating rituals.  Though recently I tried and I saw myself doing the same things all over again.  Besides I think my heart finally died.  I felt nothing.  She liked me, but I wasn’t able to reflect any feelings more than friendship.  I’m not sure if I should feel bad or just be content that I didn’t put myself right back into my old routine.

Me time

Now I finally get to be me.  Though it’s hard considering my slowly fading health and the constant pain.  Sure having someone to help me would be great, but at what cost?  Had I spent the past 6 plus years in a full on relationship, I would not have the things I have.  No drums, no guitars, no guns and probably no games.  I’ve made some great personal achievements despite my living situation.

Fuck that.  It’s time for me to be happy.  I’ve wasted too much time on finding something that isn’t meant for me.


Dogs are better than Humans

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DogI’ve been meaning to write this for a long time.  But I didn’t want it to sound like everything you already find on social media.  Yes there are bad dogs.  But not nearly as many as the good ones.  Most bad dogs were just not raised properly or raised by an idiot human.  Same thing can be said for children.

All in all, I don’t really belong in today’s world.  You can tell me all you want that freedom of speech is protected.  It hasn’t been in years.  Say something wrong and you get fined.  Make a video about something you feel strongly about and YouTube might ban it.  At least demonetize it.  Or worse, change search results to try and force you out.  You stand by your beliefs and someone will march against you.  You have to watch everything you say and do around other humans now.

Other problems I have in this world are things like.  You like collecting guns, and libtards want to remove them from you and call you a criminal.  You give someone a compliment and they get offended.  You do something nice for someone like, buy their lunch, open the door for them.  And they go on a rant rather than be appreciative.  You don’t like a certain group of people but they demand you bow to their will.  Why can’t I just ignore them?  If I do something someone doesn’t like, that’s all I ask of them.  Ignore me.  Don’t try to force me to change.  The world is upside down and it’s humans causing all the issues.

This is why I miss having a dog.  My last dog thought he was a cat.  Didn’t care much to play with other dogs.  Loved my attention.  Hated thunderstorms and fireworks.  But snuggled me all the time no matter what was going on.  He loved me no matter my point of view on any topic.

Dogs Love and Protect Their Family

I don’t even talk to 80% of my family.  We don’t share common views.  Some of my family treat other members of my family like dirt.  Or in my case, they only want me around to fix their tech.  It’s just uncomfortable all the way around.  My dog, once he got to know you come around, he just loved the extra attention.  If you got too close to my daughters, he’d take special interest so as to leap into action if he felt they were about to be in trouble.  But he never treated any other family like crap.

Dogs Don’t Start Wars

Our world has had war after war after war.  We’ve fought among ourselves, we’ve fought for other countries.  Not one of those wars were ever started by a dog.  Sure dogs fight.  Some are bred to fight.  Which is sad.  But it was humans who made them that way.  But they don’t kill thousands of their own kind or create massive army’s.

Dogs Don’t Hold a Grudge

You come home in a bad mood.  You might even tell your dog you aren’t in the mood for their attention.  So you say, “go lay down”.  Or put them outside to play by themselves for a while.  Soon as you cool down and let your dog back in.  He/she will love you regardless.  Won’t hold any unkind words against you.  Try that shit with a human.  Humans will hold a grudge.  Especially if you are in a relationship with another human.  It’s hard to find a human you can say, “I’m sorry about what I said earlier.”.  Without them bringing it back up and throwing it in your face again a few days later.  People have bad days, but why can’t other people be more forgiving about it?

Dogs Don’t Care About Silly Shit

Chase 2012-1

Dogs just want to be loved and given attention.  This is why they are so easy to get along with.  They don’t care about what the president is doing.  They won’t jump on the impeachment band wagon or cry about the possibility of losing him as a president.  Humans haven’t learned things like that are just a focal point to keep us distracted.  It’s like holding a ball up in front of the dog.  He/she focuses on the ball.  He/she wants the ball.  He/she doesn’t realize you are trying to get him to take a picture.  That’s how I got this picture.  He’s looking at the ball.

Dogs don’t go on about politics, they don’t protest, they don’t march against anything and they don’t worry about the next possible nuclear attack from Northern Korea.

These are only a few examples of the millions of things I hear about all the time from humans.  I’m more worried about my healthcare than what the president of any country is up to.  I’m having trouble walking or I worry if I’ll wake up tomorrow because of my heart.  If I had a dog, I’d be more worried about what will become of them when I’m gone.  Not all the silly shit in this fucked world.

Dogs certainly don’t care if there was an openly gay person in a Disney movie.  Neither do I.

Dogs Won’t Take Things Away Just Because They Fear It

We all fear something.  People fear guns.  People fear what other people say.  People fear knives.  In some places humans are trying to take things other humans just because they fear them.

Dogs fear guns, fireworks and thunderstorms.  But they don’t demand you get rid of these things.  Instead they take solace in knowing they can snuggle with you later when some of these bad things happen or, in the case of guns, go inside until you get done shooting targets.

Of course hunting dogs don’t probably mind at all.  They’re just happy to help hunt 🙂

Dogs Won’t Insist All Female Dogs Take Over

OK what the fuck is going on with humans today?  I was all on board with female equality.  Now it’s females must take over every damn thing.  Having just watched Avengers Endgame, did it not just seem that Captain Marvel could’ve just ended Thanos for us?  We could’ve just had her do it and not bother making any movies.  Apparently she’s unbeatable.  Instead you can see the movie held her back on purpose so we could have a movie to watch.  And Iron Man just got lucky at the end.  But he needed to die so it could seem heroic.  I hate Doctor Who now.  Even when Peter Capaldi was the doctor, it was mainly man bashing.  Suddenly all main characters need to be female.  What was wrong with having some female main characters and some male?  Now we are remaking everything about women.  Fuck it men are just scum I guess.

But your dog don’t care.  Or are we going to remake Air Bud into Air Belle?   Or A 101 Female Puppies?  Or Beethoven redone as Beatrice?

Though I’m sure your dog just won’t care who the main character is.  Or what gender the president is.  So long as it doesn’t suck.

Which these all sucked:

  • Ghostbusters – Answer the Call
  • Herbie Fully Loaded
  • Ocean’s 8
  • Batwoman
  • Doctor Who

To name only a few.

There are plenty of original movies and TV shows with great female leads.  Stop fucking up the classics!  But the dog won’t care either way.

Dogs Won’t Blaspheme God’s Gift of Gender

You will never hear a dog complain it was born the wrong gender.  Humans have lost their fucking minds with this gender shit.  As a fellow human, and pastor, I have a couple of suggestions.

But your dog will love you no matter what.  Well unless you mutilate him/her.  In which case you should never ever own a dog.  Or a cat.  Or anything.  Ever.



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TextingI must be the only person in the world who doesn’t get a dopamine high from texting or dealing with social media.  I honestly don’t care that much to get texts.  It’s nice to know you’re thinking of me.  Or just want something from me (that may or may not be nice if you’re just taking advantage of me).  I still prefer old fashioned conversations face to face.  Or at the very least over the phone.

I also don’t know why it is when I am at work, that seems to be when everyone decides to text me.  I grew up in a time when personal visits, using the phone and such at work was a huge no-no.  I’m at work to work.  Which is perhaps why I’m always asked to stay late.  But that’s another topic for another day.  It’s cool to text me at work if you want to find out something important.  But once you find out I’m at work, please keep it to a minimum.  I’d rather focus on my job.  Especially since it’s driving.  Texting and driving is bad and illegal in Michigan.

When I’m not at work, I’m the kind of person who really likes to use my hands.  I play drums, play (learn) guitar, I make graphics (like the one in this post about texting), I play video games, I blog and a number of other things.  In any case, I know I’ve explained this to many, many people.  My point of view on texting is that if it takes more than 2 texts to tell me what is on your mind, then please call or come over.  Having to drop what I’m doing to read and/or answer your texts; I’ll eventually just ignore them a while so I can get back to my life.

With text you lose context.  You don’t get the little nuances of emotion that come from hearing a voice or seeing someone’s facial expressions.  Sure you have those emoji’s.  That only goes so far and will never match real human emotion.

I know I’m very alone in my feelings about this.  Almost everyone else I know has their phones in their hands or only a few feet away and check it or write all day long.  I do but only because I want to make sure I have 911 at my fingertips.  Damn pesky heart problems.  I’m not paying $50 a month for an emergency bracelet call thing.

Also, as a side note, I no longer use Facebook Messenger at all.  I’m taking back my privacy and lets face it.  Facebook is one of the worst for privacy.  They keep all our messages.  Fuck that.


Being Single

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Being SingleWhile it sucks balls to be alone all the time.  I’ve rarely been without a companion in my life.  Now I’m choosing to be.  It’s hard.  It’s hard not to wake up next to someone who I love.  It’s no fun coming home to an empty house.  I miss the warmth of another person.

What I don’t miss is the constant heartache of the people I let inside my life hurting me.  Or spending all my time cleaning up after them or other things I won’t mention as it’s hurtful to people I love very much.

There are a lot of upsides though.  Little things you don’t realize that add up over time.

The kids are long since grown and have families of their own.  It’s good to know they have a lock on life and are able to stand on their own.  That being said, with no (so-called) partner and no children to constantly chase, life is easier in some aspects.  Though I would still give anything to hear, “Will you drive me [fill in the blank]?”.  I do miss that.

Things I don’t miss though:

  • Overflowing trash cans when I come home
  • The mess on the wall behind the trash can
  • Dirty clothes on the floor throughout the house
  • Gross bathroom
  • Destroyed bedrooms
  • The gagging smell of nail polish remover
  • Sink overflowing with dishes
  • Shit credit score
  • Always not having the money
  • Washer and Dryer get used improperly

The best parts:

  • Can eat what I want on pizza (too bad I’m sick of it)
  • Do as I please without upsetting someone
  • Listening to music I like
  • I don’t have to suffer through shitty TV shows or movies (RHPS, Reality and “Talent” Shows, Glee, etc…)
  • I no longer have anyone to belittle or berate me (at least in my own home)
  • I come home to a clean house
  • I don’t have to beg for others to help out around the house/yard
  • The garbage cans stay clean much longer

I’m not opposed to getting into another relationship.  But it will have to go slowly and she’ll have to make the first move.


Financial Stability

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MGTOWI don’t do well being alone.  All my life I have clung to someone who I hoped loved me as much as I loved them.  Always to be let down or infuriated they would lie to me.  Worse, be too stupid for me to deal with.

I’ve been single for a 5 year stretch once, but I was never alone.  Either had a roommate or friends and family frequently dropping by.  Same for when I got back to Michigan, I lived alone for the first year, but had family and friends come by often.  I’ve been single for well over a year now and this time, I don’t have a whole lot of people coming around.  Which is fine, I need this independence.  I realized long ago I don’t like to go out alone.  Always invited someone to go with me, otherwise I just wouldn’t go.  Since my last divorce, I still have trouble going out to get coffee or food by myself.  I have yet to go to the movie theater alone.  I’m smart, but have a weak backbone I guess.

I’m becoming a stronger person.  I don’t let just anyone in my life anymore.  I’m tired of rebuilding it.  I’m getting older and it’s harder to get things done, but I must.  Every time I let someone in, I get let down hard.  Especially financially.  Yet here I am now, working a low paying job, and every thing I do, I do for me.  Everything is in 3’s.  Three marriages.  Three divorces.  Three bankruptcies.  Three heart attacks.  I used to love the number 4, called it my lucky number.  Now I’m petrified of it.

My health I haven’t been working on as hard as I should be.  Mostly it’s hard to find the time working so much.  When I do get a day off I’m exhausted and sore.  I don’t feel much like taking a walk or dealing with snow and rain.

I have pulled myself out of my financial hole that I was left in 6 years ago.  I haven’t had an overdue bill in years.  I have no missed payments.  Several things are paid ahead (storage, truck payment, etc..).  I have a real loan now, for my truck.  Not a buy-here pay-here screw me loan.  I have an actual credit card now.  I have savings that can last me over a month if I end up out of work for a while.  I am proud to have regained control of my life.

All these events have left me terribly jaded toward the opposite gender (and there are only two!).  Past relationships have ruined my hope for any future ones.  I don’t want to let anyone ever get close to my money or my heart for that fact.

My next statement isn’t because I think men who have devastate a woman by raping her should go unpunished.  They most certainly should be punished for their crimes.  However, ruining a mans life because “back in the day” he touched you in school…  It’s call hormones.  I used to be cute, I’ve had my ass (and other things) grabbed before.  I’m not about to make some woman’s life miserable over it.  Women have made it so men don’t want to work with, date or even be near women anymore.

Honestly, fuck you #METOO.  How about #IMFUCKINGAWESOME and #YOUREALLYMISSEDOUTONAGOODMAN.  Just saying.


It’s a damned pound sign, not a hashtag.  You don’t press hash for more options.  😡



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Oh God. He’s going to bitch about iPhones and iPeople again…

No, I’m not actually. I’m going to tell you I bought one!  (Press Play ↓↓)

iPhone XR Blue

Remember when I bought a MacBook Pro? Yup.  All those years of picking on everyone about owning an iCrack.  Now, I have one.

There’s a reason for this.  The past 10 years or so I’ve been watching Google become more and more evil.  In short they now make billions of dollars on all the people who use their services so blindly.  Selling their tracked data of us to advertisers.  Everyone is making money off of us except, us.  I’m not getting a check, so I want out.  I honestly don’t care if you don’t mind people watching you.  Making money off of what you do online.

I for one, have experienced many times that my phone had been listening to me.  I did an experiment and randomly said the word diapers during a day at work.  When I got home, I got all sorts of ads for diapers.  I didn’t search for any.  I didn’t buy any.  I just said a word out loud at random.  Between listening, tracking locations and likely using the camera too on us.  Watching our search history.  Watching what we check out online when we use their browser or surf YouTube.

I’m not down with that.  I use a VPN on all my devices for a reason.  Well, several reasons.

Your Android spies on you over 900 times a day when at minimal use.  (even if the wifi is turned off)  More if you are using it all day long.  But don’t just take my word for it.  A nicely done research paper on it has been written and covered by the NY Times.  Summarized by this nice young man (Bryan Lunduke) here:

That’s not my only reason.  I also have become annoyed with other high end phones.  Samsung has their own version of every app already available.  They shove Bixby down your throat when Google Assistant is already there.  If you add Amazon Alexa on there, can the phone talk to itself?  All of which have privacy issues of their own.  Apple isn’t innocent completely, but as far as I know, they don’t sell the data to other parties.  They use it for themselves.

Let’s talk about Bloatware.  Every Android you buy is flooded with apps you’ll never use.  Most of which you can’t remove.  If you’re lucky you can disable them at best.  That still takes up space you paid for and now can’t use.  iPhone does not do this.  You can remove nearly all apps that aren’t tied directly to the OS.  I think Health is the only exception and one that I can’t understand being necessary.  One small app.  I think you can put your health info in it and it acts like an emergency bracelet for paramedics.

All in all I am getting away from Google completely.  I no longer use Chrome browser.  Or Google Maps.  Looking for a good email with privacy and does aliasing properly.

I now use Opera (which is Chromium based, but stripped of the Google nonsense).  I use DuckDuckGo for searching the web.

You get the idea.  I’m not saying I’m going to go blind ga-ga for Apple products like so many people I have bitched about do.  I am saying it’s a smart choice for folks who want much better privacy and security.  If you don’t mind giving your life away to a company that makes billions from it, then to each their own.

I got the iPhone Xr.  It’s very very nice.  It’s fast and smooth.  Everything I had on the Android is available for the iPhone and works perfectly.  I’ve had it a month now (got it as a birthday gift to myself) and it’s been nothing but fantastic.  I’m sure someone will point out it’s not any more innovative than the latest Samsung Galaxy.  You’re right.  That’s not why I switched.  Though even Wired Magazine claims the face recognition is insanely hard to fool.

The gestures are easy to learn.  The camera is pretty damn good.  I like it.  A lot.

And to those who I have given endless shit to about your iPhone.  I’m sorry.  Seriously, I am sorry.


Where’s the music?

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That’s a damn good question.  Where Has The Music GoneYou may be wondering these past few months why I haven’t released a new drum cover or something.  The only answer I can offer is lack of inspiration.

Seriously.  I work a hosed up schedule.  When I get a day off I’m either doing errands, running to Saginaw (sometimes Detroit) or just plain don’t feel like doing anything because I’m just tired.

That and it seems I don’t get a lot of good feedback.  Constructive criticism is welcome.  Getting negative criticism is off-putting at best.  Especially from people who don’t even play instruments telling me I do it wrong.

I do get good feedback, just less than the negative.  Tells me I need work.  I wish I could find the video; but one person said one of the reasons people get discouraged is because when they play for others, they generally expect you to be better than you are.  Which tends to let said people to open their mouths without thinking.  Sometimes it’s hard to let things go.  But I could always hand them my sticks or guitar and say, “You do better.”.

I still play and I will likely do more covers and such in the future.  Just need time to work on my skills more.  Would really like a place I can make some noise without driving my neighbors nuts or risk getting kicked out of the slums.  I mean if you get kicked out of the slums, you’re life must really suck.

But seriously, this shit has got to get changed ↓